Wednesday, February 16, 2005

The Good Enough Mother

I recently read an article in this weeks Newsweek Magazine titled The Good Enough Mother by Anna Quindlen. It really spoke to the craziness surrounding motherhood today. I can definitely relate considering that I have four children of my own under the age of ten and I have tried to be the super human parent juggling children, a job and attempting to run a household and do it all well(like that was ever a possibility). After I had my third child I quit my job and tried to redefine myself in the role of just" mother". Which generally meant losing my self defined identity as a teacher(which was my former profession) and put me on this completely untravelled road as a stay at home mom. I spent the first year trying to figure out what do do with myself and my children. Motherhood can be a very lonely job, thankfully I made some great friends-also mothers, who could "feel my pain." Five years ago I decided to take some of my life back and began painting and drawing to fill a creative void. I was sick of my only feeling of accomplishment coming from how clean my house was or weather or not I had dinner on the table, clean kids, and a tidy house before my husband got home. June Cleaver I was not and I hated playing the role, so I gave up the part. I am still juggling, but now I am showing some of my work, which not surprisingly, revolves around motherhood and my ever changing thoughts and views about surviving this life as a woman. So for all of you crazed moms out there( you know who you are) take a load off. Let the kids run wild, don't vaccuum, screw the dishes, and for god sakes order some pizza it will save your sanity!
This is one of my very first paintings titled The Good Mother. It is about the down time in motherhood when you get to actually enjoy the whole experience without judgement.


Anonymous Stephanie said...

How did you know that's exactly what I needed to hear?


10:27 PM  
Blogger Kim Carney said...

Thank you Christina, for addressing motherhood in a much more upbeat mode than I did. I admire your strength and wisdom, and of course, adore your paintings. It is all good -- Kim

1:06 PM  
Blogger Amy said...

I am so on your wavelength and have forwarded this entry to my dear husband. Although, since I am currently of commission, he has a new appreciation for a few dishes in the sink and little dust on the furniture. I say as long as momma's happy and the kiddos are happy...HOORAY!

I love that painting too, by the way.

10:23 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

From a fellow inmate on this parenting journey... and how is it that its the first day of spring break, and everyone else is sleeping in, INCLUDING HUBBY, but Im stuck down here with a wide awake infant? Christina, YOU ROCK! (Anonymous in MONTANA...)P.S. Come by for another beer sometime...

9:21 AM  
Anonymous Maureen said...

Love the egg shaped painting. Feel your pain and empathise.

3:40 PM  
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